I totally get what you're saying about honesty working better than rewards sometimes. Kids can definitely sense when we're trying too hard to make something seem fun or exciting. But I wouldn't completely dismiss the positive reinforcement approach either. It might not have clicked with your son, but I've seen it work wonders with other kids—especially younger ones or those who respond well to visual motivation.
My niece, for example, was super resistant to flossing until her mom made it into a nightly routine they did together. They'd chat about their day while flossing, and afterward she'd get to put a sticker on a calendar. It wasn't even about earning a prize; she just liked seeing the stickers build up over time. Eventually, flossing became second nature, and she didn't need the stickers anymore.
I think the key is figuring out what motivates each kid individually. For some, like your son, understanding the real consequences of neglecting oral hygiene is enough to spark action. For others, especially younger kids or those who might be anxious about dental visits, focusing on positive reinforcement or making it a bonding activity can be more effective.
Also, it's worth mentioning that sometimes combining both approaches can help. You can be honest about cavities and fillings without making it scary, and still use small rewards or praise to reinforce good habits. It's not necessarily sugarcoating—just balancing honesty with encouragement.
Every kid's different, so it's great you found something that works for yours. But I'd say don't rule out positive reinforcement entirely—it can still be a useful tool in the parenting toolbox, depending on the child and situation.
