I guess what bugs me is how much pressure there is for parents to make everything fun and magical. Sometimes brushing teeth is just...brushing teeth. And that’s okay too.
Totally get this. I’ve definitely felt the pressure to keep things “exciting” every night, but honestly, some days I just don’t have the energy (or budget) for new toothbrushes, timers, or fancy reward charts. I’ve wondered if keeping it simple and routine might actually help in the long run, like you said. For those who do sticker charts or rewards, do you find your kids lose interest after a while? Or does it actually stick?
I totally hear you—it does feel like there’s this expectation to make every little thing a “moment.” Honestly, with my youngest, we tried the sticker chart thing for a while, but yeah, after a couple weeks it just faded out. What’s worked better for us is just making brushing part of the bedtime flow, no big production. Some nights it’s silly songs, other nights it’s just…brushing teeth. And that seems fine too. I figure as long as it gets done, we’re winning, right?
I totally relate to the sticker chart thing losing steam after a while. Tried that with my daughter, and honestly, it became more work for me to remember the stickers than for her to actually brush. What’s stuck for us is just making it a non-negotiable part of the night—sometimes we chat about our days, sometimes it’s just quiet. I used to stress about making it “fun” every time, but now I figure if it gets done, that’s enough. Kids seem to pick up on our energy anyway, right?
I get what you’re saying about not needing to make it fun every single time, but don’t you think a little novelty keeps kids from pushing back? I’ve noticed with my nephew, if we just treat brushing like another chore, he starts dragging his feet. But when we switch up toothpaste flavors, or let him “brush” my teeth after I do his, he’s way more into it. Maybe it’s not about making it a game every night, but just keeping things unpredictable?
I totally agree that kids pick up on our attitudes—if I’m stressed, he’s stressed. Still, I wonder if there’s a middle ground between strict routine and all-out entertainment. Anyone else find their kids respond better when they get some control over the process? Like picking their own toothbrush or playing their favorite song while brushing. For me, the sticker chart was a bust too, but a little creativity here and there seems to help.
I get the appeal of mixing things up, but honestly, I found that too much novelty made it harder for my son to know what to expect. He’d start negotiating for a new toothpaste every night or want to skip brushing if it wasn’t “fun enough.” What worked better for us was sticking to a simple routine—same time, same spot—but letting him pick his toothbrush every few months. It wasn’t flashy, but eventually he just accepted brushing as part of the day, like putting on pajamas. Maybe some kids thrive on surprises, but for us, less was more.
